It may often feel like our feelings determine our reality - we feel happy, so life is good. We feel kind and patient with others, so we are good people. Or conversely, we feel unkind or impatient, so we are unkind or impatient. We may feel very sad or very angry, so we take that to mean our life is not good (at least not right now). In reality, our behaviors have much more to do with our reality than our feelings. By changing what we do - regardless of how we feel in the moment - we can shape our lives into what we want them to be and, in turn, change ourselves into happier, more well-adjusted people.